An overlooked but vital part of becoming a well-adjusted human is space for those changes to occur. When there is no space in childhood to do those things, it creates an unexplored aspect with the mind of a person; for me, this has been preyed upon. Those things which should have been corrected in a safe space, changed after having been accepted, was doubly reinforced as wrong and unacceptable. It created something of me that was not authentically who I am or ever would have become without abuse.

… [This is the part they call the ‘messy middle’. This is the part I am yet to edit enough to reach a shareable nugget of truth without perpetuating an already complicated process of the human experience. This is the part I’m only just coming through with my authentic self tucked safely at my core.]

What I can tell you right now is this: 

I accepted the responsibility of cycle-breaking along with those who are going through those same changes. I accept where we are and our endeavours so we can keep striving towards a better future. Change cannot happen without acceptance.

We should always try to remember that for ourselves and others.